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It worked! (self.TwoXChromosomes)

submitted by Undetered_Usufruct

I changed me name on all my delivery apps to a male name. No more constant calls or demanding I come out to collect my food. I changed it months ago and the difference is ridiculous. My directions that state to just abandon the food on the porch without knocking or calling is being honored.

I'm grateful and angry that this simple act has changed my experience with delivery apps.

It really shouldn't be such a contrast but here I am.

I appreciate the advice this subreddit gives. I'm also sad at how effective a simple gender change makes. ☹️

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[–]godihatepeople 4428 points4429 points  (55 children)

This is why I'm Keith Boomerman on all delivery accounts with a screenshot of a random 65 year old from AARP as my profile pic. Keith Boomerman has chronic The Flu and can never come to the door. Not one driver has ever persistently knocked on the door of Keith Boomerman or bothered him with a text. Keith Boomerman is immutable.

[–]Uberat 888 points889 points  (8 children)

I have a young cute girly name, and I really enjoy when they trick me into coming out the door, only to find I’m a fat old lady. Tee hee hee.

[–]JackxForge 166 points167 points  (0 children)

I just had a flash of the madam scooping up aladin and singing "I think he rather TASTY!"

[–]Prizmasm 114 points115 points  (1 child)

Put in hair rollers, put m&ms into an empty cat treat bag and pretend to eat cat food while grabbing your food.

[–]Boring-Letter-7435 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the way i almost spit out my coffee irl reading this. too funny!!

[–]Moomoolette 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Really pulling a Boomerman!

[–]Miss_Fritter 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Best part of getting old!

[–]ackmondual 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I hear this happens in online gaming. Players get excited seeing some cute avatar, but you can hear from the voice chat that it's just some old dude

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    [–]danathepaina 900 points901 points  (2 children)

    Boomerman 😂

    [–]Leelagolucky 413 points414 points  (0 children)

    It’s sad we have to Keith up the practice to begin with.

    [–]Miss_Fritter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    It’s so great

    [–]MayorCharlesCoulon 282 points283 points  (2 children)

    Skip Cheeseman has the consumption with a side of dropsy and absotootly cannot make it to the door either.

    [–]Miss_Fritter 53 points54 points  (0 children)

    I thought Skip Cheeseman was lactose intolerant.

    (Insert drum riff)

    [–]hazlethings 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    Hahaha, I see what you dropped, there!

    [–]caffeinatedlackey 271 points272 points  (7 children)

    This is a genius idea. The AARP logo profile picture is the perfect touch.

    [–]lizlemon921 40 points41 points  (5 children)

    Oh I thought they meant they found an old man’s face on aarp and took a screenshot for their profile

    [–]Miss_Fritter 15 points16 points  (1 child)

    Geez now we need to know. (The OP is unclear.)

    [–]The_Secret_Skittle 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    I’m assuming it’s some random old man screenshot from AARP as well. The logo doesn’t make sense to me lol

    [–]godihatepeople 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    It's a random boomer's face, not the AARP logo lololol. That might be too on the nose

    [–]godihatepeople 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    It's a random dude's face from the website, not the actual logo lololol. I'm trying to avoid suspicion here!

    [–]Harmless_Poison_Ivy 91 points92 points  (0 children)

    Please😭

    [–]shehulud 47 points48 points  (0 children)

    This is fucking brilliant.

    [–]IllBeBachBeaver 127 points128 points  (11 children)

    I forgot the name Keith existed! (Sorry Keiths, please don't hunt me down with your inevitably double popped collars) I think maybe when I get married I'll throw a wild card out there - not taking his name, not keeping my name, but I'm now Mr. Boomerman to you thank you very much.

    [–]godihatepeople 138 points139 points  (8 children)

    Keith Boomerman is a collective which accepts all who honor His Name, although a double popped collar gives me 90s or 2000s vibes when I think of Keith as a 1950s or 60s Margaritaville kinda name.

    [–]IllBeBachBeaver 81 points82 points  (7 children)

    May his name be honored forever and ever amen.

    I was born in 1989 and was under the general understanding that every Keith came with douche canoe vibes and a double popped collar sort of at birth.

    Then I realized I've never known a Keith.

    I think I'm Keithist.

    [–]godihatepeople 64 points65 points  (1 child)

    Rejoice, for now you know Keith Boomerman and He knows you. You have found His Light and His Saccharinity because Keith Boomerman definitely has Type 2 Diabetes from all the delivery he orders.

    [–]LaurelCanyoner 33 points34 points  (0 children)

    We are ALL Keith Boomerman. He lives inside us.

    [–]Parsleysage58 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    *Keithless, it would seem.

    [–]taste-like-burning 6 points7 points  (3 children)

    You were born in 1989 and you didn't have at least 4 Keiths in your public school career? They were everywhere when I was growing up (also a 1989 baby)

    [–]godihatepeople 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    I'm 1990 and I've never known a single Keith no fewer than 30 years my senior in any setting, but I have three boomer Keiths on either side of my family, so it's cemented as a boomer name to me. And yes, they all have had mustaches since birth. Well, my birth. perhaps their birth too idk

    [–]IllBeBachBeaver 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    I was homeschooled, and every student at my school was named either Michelle or Will. 🤷‍♂️

    I feel I must make the acquaintance of a Keith to be a proper '89 baby! Let me know if you are aware of any Keith referral agencies or some type of Keith distribution system.

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      [–]serenstar75 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      It's my first ex-husband's name so in glad to forget it exists too :)

      I'm liking the Boomerman addition

      [–]IrrationalFly 40 points41 points  (0 children)

      “Keith Boomerman has chronic The Flue”

      Lmao

      [–]Byizo 28 points29 points  (0 children)

      Conversely, Sarah Ulrich is an attractive early 20s woman, and every driver that refuses to follow the “leave at door” instructions is surprised and disappointed to see a middle aged man in his underwear asking them what the hell they’re knocking on his door for.

      [–]LoneWolf_890 40 points41 points  (0 children)

      Every woman needs a Keith Boomerman in her life!

      [–]sidetabledrawer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Chronic The Flu 😂

      [–]IndigoSynopsis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Incredible

      [–]cool. coolcoolcool.Aikenova 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      r/usernamechecksout

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        [–]postalpinup 1353 points1354 points  (12 children)

        Once I changed my name from a female one to a male one I stopped having to answer the door when they rang the bell instead of leaving it on the doorstep like the delivery instructions stated.

        [–]tinachem 265 points266 points  (8 children)

        Haha, I had COVID and ordered doordash. I explicitly stated in the directions I was sick and to leave it at the door. The dude just kept knocking and knocking, so I'm just like, "ok, it's your funeral." cough cough.

        [–]InAcquaVeritas 172 points173 points  (7 children)

        But why!? Genuinely, what are they hoping to get out of it, harassing women like that? Id it the thrill of ignoring your instructions because women can’t tell them what to do? My gosh, it’s insane! I hope you get better soon by the way!

        [–]AndreasVesalius 210 points211 points  (5 children)

        They just want to look at you and see if you're hot. It's like a happy little surprise if you are, or otherwise meet/defy their expectations.

        It's rude and dehumanizing, but I think that is pretty much "why"

        [–]Tim_Watson 94 points95 points  (2 children)

        I didn't know this was a thing, but I would suspect there's also "the implication" of knowing where you live.

        [–]Archercrash 23 points24 points  (1 child)

        "You know, because of the implication".

        [–]Mymilkshakes777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        🤣

        [–]InAcquaVeritas 24 points25 points  (0 children)

        That’s gross. entitled and controlling.

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          [–]Boring-Letter-7435 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          it's just more proof that men Need women. they can't even go 10 minutes without the opportunity of witnessing one. that's why they kill themselves or dozens of others when they're without one for too long. what do women do without men? heal. grow. evolve.

          [–]Pinklady777 22 points23 points  (2 children)

          That's insane. What type of area do you live in? I live in a small town and have never experienced this

          [–]MyFireElf 45 points46 points  (0 children)

          I'm wondering if that's the difference, because I also live in a very small town, with a clearly feminine name, and haven't experienced it either. I absolutely believe women who say they have, but I'm wondering if a larger/more populace area makes it easier for predatory behavior like this; the feeling of anonymity may be greater, and they can afford to "burn bridges" because they can get enough satisfied deliveries to statistically eat the bad reviews. In a small town the pool of people to deliver to is smaller so perhaps you wouldn't want to piss a single one off. 

          [–]DivineMackerel 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          Unfortunately it's totally believable. But yeah I wonder too if it's a demographic of delivery drivers driven by city size. I'd say young men are probably the minority of drivers in my town. I live in a medium city. Small by metropolitan standards. And Doordash seems like a very random assortment of people. But if anything 35-55 year's old. And a fairly even distribution of men, women, and even couples. Disclaimer am male and have male name. But partner hasn't got, noticed or maybe mentioned issues with pizza deliveries on her account.

          [–]Mama_Tried77 556 points557 points  (35 children)

          My name is actually Karen so no one ever bothers me

          [–]sumblokefromreddit 208 points209 points  (31 children)

          That is savage.  The stereotype actually comes in useful for once.  

          [–]Strong_Star_71 79 points80 points  (30 children)

          Unfortunately it's a misogynist confabulation. There is no name for a male karen.

          [–]Kandiru 43 points44 points  (18 children)

          Donald?

          [–]Strong_Star_71 43 points44 points  (17 children)

          Will that be written into cultural parlance, I doubt it. There are far more terms of derision for women than men, 'bitch', 'slut' 'whore', 'hag', 'tart', 'harlot', 'karen' etc.,

          [–]❤softrevolution_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          Let's just say I see the name becoming about as popular here as Adolf was/is in Germany...

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            [–]Cynical_Thinker 28 points29 points  (0 children)

            I thought Kyle was the polar opposite with all the bad male stereotypes. Punching walls specifically.

            When I was young (RIP my joints) a Chad was not a positive but a negative and basically what Kyle is today. Basically a misogynist douchebag.

            Otherwise, the terrible old fuck stereotype is just a "boomer" that Im aware of. Crusty old men, who are the "back in my day" types, who don't listen, make racist and sexist remarks, stubborn and unnegotiable, etc.

            [–]crimsonblade55 12 points13 points  (2 children)

            I mean, there have been many attempts to create a name for male karens, but no one can agree on what it should be. The most common ones from what I can tell are Kevin, Ken, and Kyle.

            [–]UncleNedisDead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Kevin

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              [–]Winterberry_Biscuits 13 points14 points  (2 children)

              Damn. I should have changed my middle name to Karen. IDK why I didn't think of it. I changed my middle name as a snub to my egg donor and used my awesome grandma's name instead. I wanted a name where when I grow withered and gray, I could go by it and it would make sense.

              [–]OptimusPrimeval 10 points11 points  (1 child)

              Here's the thing, by the time you're withered and gray, your first name will still make sense bc it will have been given to you so many years ago that it will have fallen out of vogue in the interim

              [–]Winterberry_Biscuits 6 points7 points  (0 children)

              Fair enough. I like names considered older like Agatha or something. My old middle name got made fun of a lot because it was different and no one knew how to pronounce it. Gave me a negative memory. I almost changed it to my grandma's middle name which was a really cool one.

              [–]toastedcoconut323 1637 points1638 points  (22 children)

              Made the same change myself (used the traditionally masculine version of my first name) and have not been bothered since. Somewhat related - it's alarming how many delivery profiles have female names and profile photos, but then the delivery person is a man. I think there are a lot of men out there using their wife's/girlfriend's info.

              [–]SeeWhy76 623 points624 points  (0 children)

              Yes. 100% report them it's a safety issue.

              [–]With2 726 points727 points  (0 children)

              Report them to the apps!

              [–]MercyCriesHavoc 358 points359 points  (1 child)

              I get them back by having my name on the app, but my husband always answers the door. I do the ordering part, he does the getting off the couch part.

              [–]ithoughtitwasfun 27 points28 points  (0 children)

              Since I’ve been with my husband, I make the order he deals with the delivery.

              I feel so dated right now, because I didn’t exactly have an option before meeting him. I think DoorDash was a thing? At least new.

              [–]420TheDude69 274 points275 points  (0 children)

              Prob got banned on their own accounts

              [–]TangledUpPuppeteer 141 points142 points  (7 children)

              The three times it wasn’t a man using a woman’s name, it was apparently children. You’d be shocked at how many children are apparently stealing their parents cars and driving around delivering food.

              The alternative is that some lazy adult can’t be bothered to get out of the car and send their kids up to a strange house at 10 pm on a weeknight to carry bags in. During the school year.

              [–]pinkrobotlala 98 points99 points  (2 children)

              I see you're not a teacher in a high poverty district. Some of these kids seem kinda proud of helping their parents earn money, and when they're old enough, they spend a majority of their time working to pay household bills too.

              Obviously not everywhere, but it breaks my heart when I hear kids talk about that stuff

              [–]frymaster 41 points42 points  (0 children)

              and in fairness, the alternative to having the kid in the car would be leaving the kid home alone. And if I were one of those kids I'd probably want to help carry stuff

              [–]TangledUpPuppeteer 21 points22 points  (0 children)

              No I’m not. But I also would expect a parent to join those kids for a walk up a long, dark driveway at 10 pm on a school night.

              One guy brought his kids. They rang my bell, per instructions to let me know it had arrived. I was next to the door and I heard kid voices. I opened the door (ding dong ditch works better if the person opens the door), and I see 3 kids under 10 at my door. With my food.

              Then I hear “pick it up off the step and hand it to her.”

              Oh, that’s cute! You got 3 kids with you and you gotta choose to leave them home or bring them. Might as well bring them. That doesn’t bother me.

              It’s when there are kids who look plum exhausted, and the adult is very clearly in the car and not accompanying this poor kid in any way and making them carry things.

              The kids who look like they’re having fun, or are at least awake, I’m fine with.

              And I don’t mind it at all or even think about it until after 8 pm. It’s 10, 11 and 12 at night I have a problem with. They have school tomorrow! It’s Tuesday and it’s midnight with no moon so pitch black out. Why you having this kid who is at most 8 do your job?

              Kids help their parents. I did too. There is nothing wrong with that. But my parents didn’t expect me or permit me to work at 10 pm on a school night, ever. Once I was 18, that choice was mine. But before that, they were responsible for me getting sufficient sleep.

              [–]Ire-Works 7 points8 points  (3 children)

              I'm not sure if it's better or worse than just leaving a kid unattended at home while you doordash after work to make ends meet. As a young kid with an entrepreneurial heart early on I can absolutely see myself as being the type of kid that would have totally been down to not only "Help" mom and dad, but would have likely actively begged them to drive me so I could door dash and earn a few bucks.

              [–]Tower-Junkie 17 points18 points  (1 child)

              The apps I’m on make you scan your face and license ever so often so these guys are probably going to extra lengths to do this.

              [–]mlvisby 9 points10 points  (0 children)

              I wonder if they are doing that to skirt the rules. Some delivery apps allow women to choose other women to deliver their food instead of men.

              [–]LeaveBronx 340 points341 points  (2 children)

              Omg is that why delivery people are always calling me and/or asking me to come out ? I feel dumb now because it seems so obvious

              [–]LooSeal2 78 points79 points  (0 children)

              This thread was an epiphany to me as well! When I order, they call me down every time. I don't think they ever have called my husband when he orders from his account. I am always so annoyed too, because most of the time when I'm ordering food it's because I'm sick and don't want to leave my apartment.

              [–]blbd 52 points53 points  (0 children)

              Get after them with the surliness of your namesake borough!

              [–]Calliope719 509 points510 points  (2 children)

              You see these stories pop up alarmingly often on r/doordash. It's so frustrating that we can't even order a pizza without playing 3d chess.

              [–]Powered-by-Chai 50 points51 points  (1 child)

              Makes me wonder, are they all creeps? Or do they think women are so fussy that if they don't hand it right to them they'll get a complaint. 

              Honestly this just reinforces my desire to never use these apps. I'll pick it up myself, thanks.

              [–]AggravatingPlum4301 77 points78 points  (0 children)

              They just have to know if we're hot

              [–]green_ribbon 246 points247 points  (1 child)

              I once ordered breakfast with clear instructions to leave at door and then went to walk the dog. the man was still standing there with my order when I got back looking all annoyed that I somehow made him wait

              [–]Tower-Junkie 111 points112 points  (0 children)

              That’s so fucking stupid considering he could have taken and picked up another order in that time.

              [–]They/Themdtelad11 226 points227 points  (0 children)

              Congrats! It's a sad win but a win nevertheless.

              Now imagine resumes, internal work emails, hiring contractors to work on your house, et cetera. long sigh

              [–]nightstastelikegold 208 points209 points  (0 children)

              Never occurred to me that changing to a male name might help them magically be able to follow my directions to my apartment building door. Trying it now lol

              [–]P2X-555 76 points77 points  (4 children)

              Years ago, I joined a brand new software forum and because it was so new, got my first name as a username. Mistake.

              I would ask questions, use the proforma, provide all the information and no one would answer. Yet other users were posting "I can't do the thingy with the blue button. Help". And people would. I noticed something about their usernames.

              So I changed to something like "ThorThrobbingPenisHammer" and suddenly my questions were answered.

              [–]Harmless_Poison_Ivy 20 points21 points  (0 children)

              Geez

              [–]Craftybitxh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

              something like "ThorThrobbingPenisHammer"

              That's funny, this is the person I feel I'd avoid on the internet lol

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                [–]sqwrlydoom 476 points477 points  (10 children)

                I'm a trans dude, and I was high key blown away by how much more other men listened to/acknowledged/believed my word once I transitioned. It was absolutely insane how the exact same words I used when perceived as female vs male were interpreted by other men. It really drove home to me how much cis men are taught to absolutely de-value the female experience/perspective.

                [–]Tower-Junkie 83 points84 points  (2 children)

                Because it actually isn’t a choice, I remain a cis woman and the only way I’ve learned to combat that is to make whatever point you’re trying to get across their point or idea. I gave up fighting for recognition after the time my male boss told me my idea wasn’t feasible and then suggested the exact same thing two months later. It was a very simple, and imo, good idea. It was terrible when it was my opinion of course.

                [–]Dot81 61 points62 points  (1 child)

                This happened to me in the same meeting! I reacted by angrily saying, "That's exactly what I just said!", only to be completely ignored by everyone in the room, again.

                [–]UNICORN_SPERM 23 points24 points  (0 children)

                That's when you look at the note taker (hopefully there is one, it's probably also a woman) for confirmation.

                [–]cool. coolcoolcool.twoisnumberone 182 points183 points  (2 children)

                I'm a trans dude, and I was high key blown away by how much more other men listened to/acknowledged/believed my word once I transitioned. It was absolutely insane how the exact same words I used when perceived as female vs male were interpreted by other men. It really drove home to me how much cis men are taught to absolutely de-value the female experience/perspective.

                Yeah, that's apparently a really common realization. Sigh.

                [–]transnavigation 27 points28 points  (1 child)

                Happened to me, all of the sudden I went from people assuming I was just a worker to people assuming I was the inheriting son of whatever place I was working.

                [–]Saorren 60 points61 points  (1 child)

                its honestly depressing that our species is still so stuck in this type of reaction just based on a persons percieved gender.

                [–]worldnotworld 36 points37 points  (0 children)

                Blame the patriarchy.

                [–]MechaSandstar 30 points31 points  (0 children)

                Similar for me, but reversed. I didn't know what privilege really was till I transitioned, and had to start repeating myself cause no one listened.

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                  [–]Zozorak 39 points40 points  (0 children)

                  Jeez I usually follow this sub to get advice on what people find creepy and how I can hopefully make people's encounters easier (that and I have 3 girls) but stuff like this just makes me sad.

                  Good on you for finding a workaround. But sucks that you need it in the first place.

                  [–]AikoG84 76 points77 points  (4 children)

                  So i am a DD driver part time, and order food sometimes.

                  I have a masculine unisex name as my name for both, and it makes a world of difference.

                  It's sad that we have to do these types of things to protect ourselves. We should be able to just exist.

                  [–]renadryl 19 points20 points  (3 children)

                  i’ve been considering doing doordash as a second job, does it let you have a wildly different name from your legal one or do you just make a unisex version of your name? i gotta figure out how to make one out of my very feminine name lmfao

                  [–]Tower-Junkie 21 points22 points  (0 children)

                  It wants your legal name and if there are ways of cheating it, I haven’t tried. It makes me scan my face occasionally, but I don’t think it shows the customers. Personally, the worst thing that’s happened was one guy sending me his number and another asking about my marital and family status on the message feature. I just make sure to keep my car close to the door and the safety features button available until I’ve put their stuff down. The vast majority of people just want their food, but you do have to watch your ass out in the wild. If you’re in a really shitty area I recommend finding another zone to work. I drive about 30 minutes to work one that pays waaaaaay better.

                  [–]AikoG84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  It depends on your area. Some areas require you to use your legal name.

                  I have had my driver account since 2018, and they didn't care back then. My area hasn't forced the change yet. I may stop driving completely if they do.

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                    [–]tired-queer 76 points77 points  (0 children)

                    Yup, there’s a reason I put my partner’s name on our DoorDash account. :(

                    [–]YouStupidBench 77 points78 points  (0 children)

                    Plus, I get more food!

                    When a pizza or something got delivered, I would always yell back into the empty apartment to my fake boyfriend: "Jake, the pizza's here!" Immediately put an end to deliverymen hitting on me or hanging around too long. (A friend of mine donated a big work jacket and some old size 13 boots which sit on a mat by the door.)

                    Then someone here said that she put a man's name on the orders, so I started putting Jake's name on my orders too. Jake gets more toppings on his pizzas, he gets more meat in his sandwiches, all those years I had no idea I was being discriminated against in food, too.

                    [–]zimbacca 36 points37 points  (0 children)

                    My friend sends me money and has me order her deliveries for this very reason.

                    [–]GlitteryCakeHuman 35 points36 points  (1 child)

                    I changed my profile picture on a scrabble app from me to a picture of a zipped up hoodie profile where you can’t see gender.

                    I went from getting pms saying ”hi” and asking how I’m doing, saying I look nice, good game and such to…

                    People leaving games after being matched. No pms.

                    I have statistics. Before no one left or it was an odd timeout once a month to people leaving every day, like 10%.

                    It was fucking eye opening. I posted about it with the pictures on group about men being creepy and I got replies that had the same experience and comments saying I should expect it for looking sexy.

                    [–]eternal-eccentric 20 points21 points  (0 children)

                    I should expect it for looking sexy

                    Honestly? How dare you exist! /s

                    Keeping even (in-game) avatar thingies gender neutral really helps. In online gaming (we're talking groups of people with lobbies and stuff) no one will ever know that I am in fact not a dude. The friends I play with also make sure to use male/neutral pronouns in regards to me when chatting.

                    [–]cool. coolcoolcool.vpsj 34 points35 points  (2 children)

                    A few years ago, a friend of mine was getting hit on on instagram by a guy incessantly. She told him no dozens of times, swore at him, blocked him. NOTHING worked. He'd just create another account and start messaging her all over again

                    I asked her if she wants to me to take care of it but she didn't want it to become a big deal so I suggested her to pretend to be a guy, and that she tell him that she's actually running a "fake" account of an ex.

                    Guess what? It worked. That dumbass literally heard someone say that they were using a fake account of a girl and all he said to my friend was "Cool man, take care"

                    The world is horrible as fuck

                    [–]Basically April Ludgatemikasoze 15 points16 points  (1 child)

                    I remember my hotel receptionist fiancé telling me about a time at work when someone called up Reservations. I can't remember why, but I remember the fiancé telling me that the caller would not listen to what the reservations staff member who answered was telling him even though she repeated it over and over. Eventually, she had enough, and called in my fiancé. He told the caller exactly what the reservations staff member had told him, word for word. Caller thanked fiancé and hung up.

                    [–]bob_rien4683 29 points30 points  (4 children)

                    If I lose the apostrophe and add a full stop I have a mans name, I use it all the time on the internet.

                    [–]Comprehensive-Bee839 36 points37 points  (3 children)

                    B'ob?

                    [–]bob_rien4683 19 points20 points  (1 child)

                    B.O' B

                    [–]Godwin_Point 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                    Don't pull the thang out unless you plan to bang!

                    [–]potatomeeple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                    Da've.

                    [–]nerowasframed 24 points25 points  (0 children)

                    Well shit. For a long time, my wife and I have been tying to figure out why some delivery drivers make us come out to get the food, even though both of us have the "no contact delivery" or "leave on front porch" option enabled on every delivery app. Your post made me realize that it only ever happens when we order food with her phone.

                    [–]dactyif 105 points106 points  (4 children)

                    I hear you sis, I did that by changing my ethnic name to a very European name, got picked up a lot quicker for my ubers n shit. And I'm a guy.

                    [–]cool. coolcoolcool.twoisnumberone 81 points82 points  (0 children)

                    changing my ethnic name to a very European name, got picked up a lot quicker for my ubers n shit

                    The impact of racism on decisions regarding people in an employment context has long been proven. Your experience sadly fits.

                    [–]Tower-Junkie 19 points20 points  (2 children)

                    For the delivery side of DoorDash at least, we can’t see any of your info until we accept the order. It gives you about 30 seconds to look at the map pins and decide if you want to go to that area or not and if you decline too many, your metrics get fucked. If your delivery is getting picked up and dropped a lot it could be because of your name, but if it’s consistently not getting picked up at all then you aren’t tipping enough. Many people reject anything under $1 per mile because it’s just not worth it.

                    I totally believe that racists would drop an order just because of someone’s name though. Personally I’ve always thought it was dumb because every single time I’ve been a victim of assault, the perpetrator was white.

                    [–]dactyif 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                    I'm in the restaurant industry, I overtip lol. I started noticing it when my girlfriend, who is as white as the day is long and called Lindsay would get uber rides wayyy faster.

                    There is definitely a prejudice here in Vancouver, and it's progressively getting worse because we're getting a lot of immigrants. Makes me sad though.

                    [–]Tower-Junkie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                    Yeah uber probably shows your name :/ it is really sad and just ignorant. Personally I don’t get it from a financial standpoint. If the tip is there, idgaf what you look like, I’m out here to make money. So being racist is just losing them money.

                    [–]Iron_Rose_5 20 points21 points  (0 children)

                    My name that works for both male and female so its a tossup how they typically react. I wonder what would happen if used a stereotypically male or a female name and see how much the reactions differ.

                    [–]countvonruckus 84 points85 points  (2 children)

                    Ahh, one of the hardest part of transitioning to present as a woman is that I legitimately lose a lot of those male privileges. No regrets on doing it, but legitimately it is pretty striking how much people treat me different in negative ways when they perceive me as a woman. Getting talked over more, losing the authority of the "male confident voice," being treated as a stupid dupe for strangers who try to gaslight me about their clearly sexual advances...sigh. It's great being a woman, it just sucks getting treated as one sometimes.

                    [–]JustmyOpinion444 45 points46 points  (1 child)

                    I had a coworker who had a sibling transition to female while working as an engineer. The sibling had been a well respected leader of the engineering team for many years before transitioning. As soon as she got breasts, she was ignored and talked over. BY THE SAME MEN SHE'D BEEN WORKING WITH AS A MAN.

                    [–]countvonruckus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                    I've noticed the same to a degree, though my transition in my professional presentation has been complete across jobs (previous job I was deadname and masculine-ish, current one I'm the new name and femme). Just with people in general I've seen it, including some older acquaintances too.

                    [–]52BeesInACoat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

                    My accounts still have my name, but this stopped for me when I put an "autistic child in the home" safety sticker on my door.

                    The sticker is for paramedics or police and warns that, in an emergency, he might resist help or try to run away.

                    I'm assuming they get up to the door, see the sticker, and bail immediately. Because I do still get the texts sometimes, but no one has demanded I come to the door in years.

                    [–]DancingMathNerd 47 points48 points  (5 children)

                    Whoa, I’m a dude and I don’t think I’ve EVER had a DoorDash delivery driver require me to be present at the door when they deliver the food. They always just drop it off and I get it a couple minutes later. I seriously had no idea this was a thing! None!!!

                    [–]Jazz & Liquorsynaesthezia 42 points43 points  (0 children)

                    Ignorance is bliss.

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                      [–]sirensinger17 11 points12 points  (0 children)

                      I originally used my husband's name, but then we kept getting a dasher that we're pretty sure was his bio-dad that my husband wants to never see again. Creepy stuff

                      So now I'm David Miller. Haven't seen "dad" since changing the name.

                      [–]swarmofbzs 21 points22 points  (0 children)

                      WTH

                      This is the first time I've ever read this.

                      We've been getting deliveries for a min thanks to covid but I figured the issues were with new delivery people or our location.

                      Most of the accounts are under a typical non male name but the results are all over the place unless it's a repeat driver. Repeat driver m or f don't ask for anything unless there's some sort of alcohol in the purchase.

                      Either way depending on the accuracy of the loc on the app my partner and I have both had to walk out for some drivers or walk around to the wrong block because the directions are shit.

                      [–]classicicedtea 16 points17 points  (0 children)

                      I just use a first initial

                      [–]dimmitree 66 points67 points  (3 children)

                      I used to be a pizza delivery driver. In 3 years of delivering pizzas in college, only one woman invited me back over. Not that I was trying to have that happen, but dudes need to give up on this fantasy.

                      Also, getting invited back over went REALLY badly. Ended up having to fight off a grown man these girls had invited over because he broke in through the back window when they tricked him into leaving and tried to lock him out.

                      [–]laffer1 11 points12 points  (1 child)

                      This is starting to sound like the movie the last American virgin.

                      [–]dimmitree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                      God got sick of writing new characters and ripped 19 year old me straight out of a cheesey 80s teen comedy.

                      [–]Kitsnomad 25 points26 points  (0 children)

                      Subscribe.

                      [–]Illinois_Jayhawk23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

                      I was a driver for two years and if a delivery said leave at door and do not knock, I was thrilled and did exactly that. There is no one worth my not following that for. The only time I knocked and waited was when a neighbor asked me to because they knew the customer needed help carrying the food and was too proud to ask.

                      [–]thisismyB0OMstick 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                      I'm logged into my husband's account on my computer and app - for the same reason. Suddenly no calls or demands to knocking when I'd clearly set it to leave at the door. Makes me furious.

                      [–]Tower-Junkie 26 points27 points  (7 children)

                      A a delivery driver, unless your home is literally inaccessible (looking at you mountain town customers) I can guarantee you they’re being creeps if they demand you come out. The only time I had to ask for that was when someone wanted me to deliver to literally the top of a mountain and it became physically impossible for me to get my car up there. Otherwise, I don’t want to talk to you anymore than you want to talk to me. In fact, I prefer you just let me go about my business because the longer I spend on your order, the less money I make overall. There is no profit in waiting and calling and trying to make contact with you if you don’t request it.

                      Edit to add: I don’t knock at all unless you ask me to. I assume you get all the pictures I take and will know when it’s delivered.

                      [–]fl135790135790 11 points12 points  (5 children)

                      They know, that’s why they changed their name to a male name, and why this is a post.

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                        [–]sumblokefromreddit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

                        My username on this site implies I am male as you can see.  I still get downvoted sometimes (and only when deserved usually) but I bet if I had a more female type name I would be getting hella flamed on some of the other subs I visit.  Like getting called a dumb bitch for my perspective on a walmart policy or my take on some tv show episode.  

                        [–]pocketSandshashashaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                        I also get a refund way faster without hassle.

                        [–]illmakeyoublue 5 points6 points  (2 children)

                        Jesus, it never occurred to me that THAT is why they won't just leave the food at the door rather than knocking and waiting for me. Will need to experiment with a guy's name instead.

                        [–]faithmauk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                        I have three large dogs that like to bark out the window, I don't love the barking but it is also a solution to this issue 😅

                        [–]AlarmingSorbet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                        That’s why I use my husband’s account and don’t use my old one. My sister is single, but when my kids (who are stinky teen boys) visit she sends the pair to get her food. A little biological warfare don’t hurt 😂

                        [–]chuninsupensa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                        Ohhhh... OOOOHHHHH! I have a traditionally masculine name and was wondering why I wasn't dealing with this issue. NOW I get it.

                        [–]BADgrrl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                        I have a fairly common but very traditionally masculine first name that was shortened to a feminine nickname when I was little. I *loathe* the nickname, so as soon as I was able to, I insisted on going by my full, masculine first name. I have some funny stories about having it... like the time I had to present myself (with copies of ALL of my attempts to clarify that I am cis and *female*) at the local recruiting office to make sure they stopped blocking my student aid because despite my masculine first name, I AM female, and therefore not required to enroll in Selective Service to qualify for my federal student loans.

                        But generally, it has been 1000% to my advantage to have a masculine first name... My emails get answered (and if they've never met me in person, I get more respectful and helpful answers), I don't get harassed by delivery drivers.

                        [–]wannaseeawheelie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                        I never use delivery apps, but now I want to so I can pretend to be a lady and surprise some creeps

                        [–]jedberg 4 points5 points  (1 child)

                        My (female) friend uses her (male) dog's name on all the apps.

                        [–]sam_smith_lover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I love that! I’m getting ready to adopt a cat, and I love Carl for a boy cat. Maybe I need to become Carl on Uber Eats/Doordash lol

                        [–]damousey[🍰] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                        I changed my name to "Dr" and let their misogyny assume the difference. Used to get a fair amount of "what are you doing later?" type creepiness before the tweak.

                        [–]Otterpawps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                        I had no idea women had to go through that (in addition to everything else I read about here). That is horrifying.

                        [–]bpayne123 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                        What?! I live in the middle of nowhere so Doordash isn’t really a thing here. This blows my damn mind.

                        [–]lindanimated 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                        I am constantly floored by the terrible misogynistic shit American women are expected to put up with. I guess I’ve taken for granted how good I have it with my local delivery apps, which I’ve never had any issues with at all. I don’t think anyone has ever even called me as long as I have the building’s door code stated in my address info. Good on you for finding a way to make it better for yourself, OP! I just really wish it wasn’t necessary for women to jump through hoops to get even a fraction of the respect men are granted for free.

                        [–]stacie_draws_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        This keeps happening with my ulta deliveries

                        [–]LittleMissNothing_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I've been using my boyfriend's DoorDash account for years. I remember having this same issue when I used an account with my name on it. I am really grateful I have the chance to use his, but it sucks that it seems necessary to hide behind a masculine name just to have something delivered without being harassed about it.

                        [–]Neat_Secretary_7159 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        Aargh matey! Welcome aboard!

                        [–]Rubberbandballgirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I only ever used a food delivery service a few times but I always used my initials and they always followed my directions. I didn’t realize that was probably for the best. 

                        [–]ratpride 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        Ok I have to try this. I've been literally writing it 3 times that I don't want any contact and to just leave the food outside and STILL they call and wait at the door EVERY TIME.

                        [–]CelticDane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I'm sorry you had to resort to changing your account name. My mom and I each use our given female names for delivery, with separate accounts. It's rare that they don't follow the written instructions to leave it. Earlier this week was the first time in months that I had to verbally tell them to leave it at the door. My issue is usually that they don't ring the bell or knock (also in my instructions). If I'm not glued to my phone and they leave food and drink without doing either, it could be 20 minutes before I think to check if they were dropped off. But, the majority of the time, they follow the instructions.

                        [–]ButtBread98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I use Rusty Shackleford

                        [–]Cardsfan1[🍰] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                        I feel like this is another example of a thing women MUST think about, and men never do. It is totally fucked that it has to happen.

                        Also, do food apps have a thing where you can request a female driver similar to Uber/Lyft?

                        [–]NoeTellusom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        Fwiw, I use my initials on mail due to crap like this.

                        [–]smashingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                        I clearly state in my instructions to leave my food and go or my dogs will try to get outside. No issues since I included that tidbit

                        [–]Multi-tunes 12 points13 points  (2 children)

                        This is definitely true, however for those in apartments, I think a lot of the time there is just confusion. I work in apartments and see lots of delivery people confused about where to leave food because they can't get into the building and the person who ordered doesn't answer the phone or call button. Sometimes they leave things in the lobby if there is one. I see food sitting outside people's doors too and I wonder if they were notified or aren't home despite ordering in.

                        [–]Grape1921 20 points21 points  (1 child)

                        I understand this - so I always say what side of my building my door is on and that it is upstairs.

                        [–]Multi-tunes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

                        That's definitely helpful. 

                        My father got locked inside the hallway of a condo one day while on the job (tradesman) because there was no door that didn't require a fob to open. I had to go rescue him. He's lucky his phone barely got signal in there otherwise he would have had to wait for a tenant to randomly pass by. Terrifying for fire safety. I don't think the building fixed the problem though

                        [–]Ja22hands 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        I just realized that me being named and having the exact name as my dad has been the reason I haven’t experienced a lot of these issues

                        [–]Slidje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        Kerkylas Andros

                        [–]Siyango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        Mine is “Husband’s name & my name last name” and I haven’t had any problems. I usually only order while I’m at work though, my husband hates DoorDash lol.

                        [–]RealAwesomeUserName 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        Wow I had no idea this was a problem. I’ve never had this issue but that is likely due to my giant dogs. They leave so fast lol

                        [–]pinsmari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        i was always so confused as to what women were talking about when using their real names on food delivery apps but then i realized: i use my nickname, and it’s a VERY common male middle eastern name . uber drivers will say that they thought i was going to be a guy. because of people’s shared experience, im definitely keeping it as my delivery name!

                        [–]They/ThemRazarTuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        *taking notes*

                        Don't update apps to chosen name...

                        [–]quiladora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                        My name is unisex. I had no idea this was an issue for women!

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